Life is Not a Controllable Journey

Our divine timing is the reason we are here.1 Vianna Stibal, Founder of ThetaHealing

Divine Timing registered differently than synchronicity in my experience. Synchronicity served as a direction marker as I progressed along the path to discover soul-led purposes, but Divine Timing was a mission marker, communicating I was on the right path, and when creations were ready to be brought to life. Those creations are what we’d planned to do in this life before we were born. As I found out, there are many ways and times our soul reminds us to follow our life's missions through Divine Timing, but we still have the option to pay attention or not.

Diving timing can be confusing. I struggled with the concept until I asked a different question: What stops Divine Timing?

You become disconnected from Divine Timing when you are gripping onto control, forcing life to go “your way”.... The biggest block is your fear. No matter what fear you experience in life, whether that be fear of failure, fear of rejection or judgment, fear of the unknown, fear of being out of control. All of the fears are ultimately the same, they are the fear of not being enough.2

Oh, I recognized the control issues and the fears I felt. What if I couldn't write well enough? What if I spend the rest of my life paying off debt from editing and self-publishing? There are many reasons we try to control what's ahead. We want what we want: success, financial stability, a meaningful life, a way to make the world a better place. The challenges we encounter cause us to struggle, and we can't help but wonder why things are so difficult. We're all in life school learning things, that's why, but that's another post.

To want to help make the world a better place is a noble mission in life, but how one goes about accomplishing that mission is key. We all make lists of what we want to learn before we are born, but don't remember what was on that list after we're born. Life and our souls remind us along the way, and learning is a powerful teacher when we do what we do and then see the negative or positive results.

As we learn what is on that list—usually the hard way through trauma or unfortunate events—somehow we become better humans. We evolve, hopefully. What we decide to do to become better humans feels like we're giving back to the Divine, but are we doing something aligned with who we are inside? Does this "doing" light up the seeds of light already in us? We all have them; they are a part of our soul. How do we know those seeds are lit up?

Well, it feels different. Here's an example. I struggled with what my mission in life was, and whether real estate was a suitable career for me. My intuition told me in May 2019 that I would park my real estate license in March 2022, and then I promptly forgot about it. Divine Timing and our souls never forget. I parked my real estate licence in March 2022, paving the way for me to start writing this book in August 2022. That was Divine Timing.

So Divine Timing feels different, and when we use our intuition to make decisions, Divine Timing confirms we're on the right path, whether or not we know what our mission is. At the time I thought about retiring from real estate, I didn't know what my mission in life was. As we make more decisions that align with who we really are, Divine Timing seems to speed up.

These last three years since I began writing my book have been incredible. I realize now that Divine Timing also applies to my creations. The desire to be published as soon as possible spurred me to bulldoze my way through the process. My book launch had to be rescheduled several times because of unbearable tooth pain that culminated in the need for three root canals, as well as a broken rib from a fall, and then grieving with my husband when his father died. I had been pushing to get my book into print, but it wasn't ready. Despite the reality of my publisher's deadlines, gripping control and forcing life to go 'your way', as Sidney Smith says, blocks Divine Timing.

So how does one reconcile the real world and Diving Timing? You don't, but you can practice allowing, patience, and faith. I'm practising faith and patience that what is happening in the present is the right time, the Divine Time. Getting into an allowing is a daily choice that helps me loosen the grip on wanting to control the outcome.

Life is not a controllable journey no matter how hard we try. How can we reconcile Divine Timing and those experiencing uncomfortable, barbaric events happening worldwide, or illness, disease, disfigurement, poverty, and homelessness? What does Divine Timing say then? I don’t have the answers to these questions, but Caroline Myss said what I needed to hear. Her voice is one of experience and wisdom as a mystic.

You must, in other words, use events that defy your reason to break through your reason. You could liken this to pushing yourself through the eye of the spiritual needle into a higher consciousness. This consciousness grasps the truth that, although evil cannot be eradicated, love and compassion in some way counteract its force. Illness and catastrophe are but two of the endless expressions of the fact that life is not a reasonable or controllable journey.3

There's that word "controllable" again. We are here as humans, on Earth at this time and place because of Divine Timing. Yes, life can throw some pretty unreasonable things at us, but our response is the measure of who we are becoming, for better or for worse. Breaking through to love and compassion is as close an answer as any to counteract events that defy our reason.

¹Vianna Stibal, Seven Planes of Existence: The Philosophy of the ThetaHealing® Technique, (Hay House, 2016), 52. Kindle.

²Sidney Smith, AwP Wellness, The Biggest Block to Trusting in Divine Timing

³Carolyn Myss, Anatomy of the Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing (Harmony Books, 2017), 800. Kindle.